It all started Saturday morning 16th of January 2016, I felt contractions at 4.30 am in the morning it woke me up. I thought this must be labor contractions, I was so happy. We went to the hospital not knowing that I had to call first.
We arrived at the hospital, the doctor looked at me and said you can walk, that means that you don't really have labor contractions, but they checked anyways. We stayed at the hospital for 2 hours after that, the doctor sended us back home.
The whole day I felt pain in my lower tummy, but it was a pain that I could handle. After dinner it got worst, at 11 pm I felt like I might broke my water so we called the hospital and they said I could come over. The doctor checked me again and wasn't sure if my water broke but there was water coming out. He said that I haven't delated yet, but I did had contractions every 6/7 min.
This time they didn't sended me back home, because the doctor was aware that with my previous pregnancy I had a c-section and wanted to monitor me in the hospital.
It was hard for me to stay up everytime when I walked, I felt the contractions coming every 3min when walking but when I lay down it would come every 5min.
Sunday morning the doctor checked and he said I was 1 cm delated, he informed me that they could break my water to speed things up but I had to be 3cm delated. If I wasn't delated by then they had to do a csection that Sunday evening.
I really didn't want to do a c-section again and want to experience vaginal birth, my mother did it , my grandma did it so I felt that I had to do it to. I cried and said I will not give up yet. So we informed all the people that we love about our condition and asked for their prayers that before dinner time I had to be 3cm delated so they can break my water.
When time passed by, my contractions became worst, I was waiting for the doctors but they didn't come. I waited till dinner but then they didn't came to give me more heads up. I called them and asked what we are going to do now, because they said they would check on me and see if we are going to do a c-section or not that Sunday.
They decided to give us more time till monday morning, because they knew how much I wanted a vaginal birth.
That night Papi victor (our pastor) came with Jc, Ka hanna and opa to visit us. It was really comforting that they came, he said if your face is not ugly yet because of the pain your not there yet.That made me a bit happy kind of not knowing that the next day he would told the truth.
Sunday night my pain got worst, I couldn't sleep. The nurse gave me morphine she said "you will not feel the pain and your able to sleep till morning". So I said to my husband that he could go home because I would see him in the morning. The morphine only worked for 1 and a half hour I woke up again because of the pain. I showered for 1 hour and walked the pain out the whole morning. It felt like hell that night, alone in the hospital I almost gave in and said maybe the csection would be better now. So I will be done and won't feel these pain that comes every 2min.
Monday morning the doctor came to check me at 9 am, and HALELUYA I was 3cm delated they broke my water in another 30min. And the contractions came more regularly OMG the pain. They checked me again, 1 hour after and I was still 3cm so they induced me. OW LORD OW LORD the pain it felt like menstruation pain but 10000 times worst.
The nurse said to me don't scream the pain out but breath in and out and say LET IT GO when breathing out. So I did that but it didn't really comfort me, I changed it to I ACCEPT THE PAIN and LET IT GO. The nurse kind of looked confused at me when I said it, they probably think why would you accept it. For me accepting the pain makes it less painful because accepting it, that's a part of love. Love always endure and gives strength even when your weak.
Around 12pm the pain got to much and I was delated 4/5cm by then, but I couldn't handle it anymore so I asked the doctor for an epidural. Not to long after I ordered an epidural papi Victor came and prayed for us right away. He prayed asking God to give us strength and that I could make it without medicines and epidural. And I was like ow no why did you pray for that I just ordered an epidural. So the epidural came, before that they stopped inducing me. The doctor checked again and I was 6cm delated. I said to the doctor you know what I don't want to be induced and I don't want the epidural, I will try to do it on my own.
The doctor asked me twice if I was sure and I was so sure about it, because I had a great team who encourage me and massaged me.
The pain got worst but I got help Papi Victor massaging my feet, oma massaging and praying at belly, Subhan who was rubbing my back all of that really helped.
At 3pm the doctor came again and she checked me I was 7cm delated, that point I was disappointed because I was hoping for 8/9cm delated.
I felt angry at myself so I decided to lay on my side in the hope that I get more delated. At 3.45pm I felt this contraction like I want to take a poo but the nurse said that I can not give in, I had to puff the poo pain out. That was so annoying the nurse called the doctor again she checked me and Thank God i was by then 9cm delated WOOHOO I was soo happy and proud at myself.
The doctor went away, the nurse was already getting ready for the delivery. While she was getting ready something happen to me, I had this contraction and I just screamed so hard wanting to push the baby out of me. The nurse called the doctor and she checked me again and yes I was 10cm delated which means I could push anytime soon, After she checked me there came another contractions and I really felt like I had to push something out, felt like I wanted to take a major shit. The doctor said oke are you ready, I was like helll yeahh I was so excited and spiritful, This contraction was so different then the contractions I had for the past 3 days, this was a poo feeling and in between the contractions I could rest. When before I had contractions every 1/2 min non stop without pauses.
I had 5 contractions per contractions I had to push 2 times. Within `10 pushes baby Noa came. My mom said when his head is almost coming out you will feel a fire burning feeling in your vagina, but I didn't felt that guess its because I drank raspberry leave tea for the past 2 months, it said it will make your vagina flexible. Noa head came out it slided out of my vagina I got shocked and said " WHAT THE *** IS THAT" afcourse it's his head duhh but it was a my first reaction so stupid thinking about it makes me really feel dumb., then the rest of his body came out it just slides out of my vagina within 2sec. I was so happy the pain was gone and baby Noa in my arms right away. It took him 11min to come out and it took 60 hours of pain. But it was all worth it, a wish come true to finally have experienced a vaginal birth. A life experience of not giving up and giving in. Being firm and hold Gods promise and his words. And the people he sended to support me for the past 3 days.
The doctors that fought for me, to not to do a cesarean and believed in my body that I could do this. So thankful to the hospital Bronovo for the great hospitality.
I am a pretty simple person, so I don't really like to over pack things. Even in my bag that I use daily there's not so much going on.
This is my second delivery and I just want to bring to the hospital things that I really need.
These are the essentials that I will be bringing to the hospital
- Underwear and nursing bra
- Breast Pads, because your milk will be over flowing and it;s not cool to take pictures with a whole wet area at your breasts.
- Comfi pyjamas with buttons so you can easly breast feed your new born.
- Towels, I delivered in Indonesia at this hospital and it felt like I was in a hotel they changed my towels everyday. But now I am in Holland for my second delivery, I don't think they will provide towels for me.
- Some oil to relax, I will be bringing minyak telon, it's a minty oil from Indonesia for babies but I just love the smell, I can't live without it.
- Comfortable clothes for when your leaving the hospital. I will be wearing a cotton dress with a long cardigan and stokkings. I will not be wearing jeans because your vagina will hurt after delivery. So I prefer to not wear tight pants near my vagina area.
- Pads for after the labor it's a must, the hospital will provide you some, but it's always good to bring your own.
- Your basic toilet needs, like toothpaste, brush, shower gell etc.
- A lil a bit of make up, because you do want to look good on pictures, I am not going to wear foundation but a concealer for the eyes can do miracles.
For the baby
For the new born I will be bringing,
- 5/6 infant body suits, 3 short sleeves and 3 long sleeve body suits
- 3 new born kind of pyjamas
- 4 pair of socks
- 2 pair of cute outfit for leaving the hospital
- a new born ski jacket, because this baby will be born in January and it's really cold this time of the year. So better wrap my baby really good
- 2 swaddle blackets
- Nursing blanket, so when guests are coming over and you need to breastmilk your baby they won't see your hugemunges breasts.
- Some hydrofyl towels
- Diapers, hospital will provide diapers for the baby. But I just bring mine just in case
- Wet tissues
- Car Seat is a must
- Warm blanket for the baby.
These are what I am going to bring, please comment or connect with me to share with me.
First time going to Bukit Kasih (Hill of love), walking the stairs to the peak of the mountain. It was beautiful, breath taking and fun yet really tiring. Going up was alright but getting down was for me the hardest part. When walking to the top people usually say, its harder to get to the top then going down. Well not for me, got almost hit by a thunder when I reached the top, clouds were cloudy it almost felt that heavy rain could drop any time soon. Rushed my ass down thinking I could die and be stuck for ever in the jungle, had to go down trough the the jungle instead of the stairs, because the guide said it was faster that way. Well NOT. I almost felt a lots of time had to walk on mud and stones, while it rained a tiny bit. Felt like forever going down, couldn't stop thinking of Kairos and prayed in my heart "OH God please let the clouds hold their peepee for a tiny bit until I get down , save and sound holding Kairos in my arms." Mosquitoes everywhere and they love to have a piece of me all the time, because Indonesian people say that I am " Dara Manis" ( Sweet blood). I am sweet alright but not for the mosquitoes got the chance to kill a lot of them that day.
After all the walking and the drama we stopped in the middle of the mountain. What I saw on the hill was breath taking and it moved me so much. There were 4 temples on the hill a mosque Catholic Church, Christian Church, temple and a Hindu temple. People were going to the temple to pray peacefully. Wished it could be like this in every corner of the world, that we can respect each others believes. The people in Minahasa showed me that it is possible.
Minahasa I love you, I am proud to say that I am to a Minahasian, till we meet in February.
Two weeks ago my son had the pinky eye his eyes got infected. He had a bit of a flue and we had Peazmakerz practice Saturday and Kairos played he loves Peazmakerz so much and the children loves him to.
But the place where we practice is not a clean place, and some of our kids in Peazmakerz aren't all clean to because we have street children. So he apparently rubbed his nose then rubbed his eyes and his fingers were full of bacteria.
Next thing I knew his eyes got red with a bit of yellow white pus coming out every half an hour. The next day his eyes got so swollen and I got scared, I had this eye infection before when I still lived in Holland 10 years ago.
Now knowing Erma, Erma doen't go to the doctor that easily, so I thought I will take care of his eyes and see how the eyes will be in three days.
What I did I cleaned the eyes, with clean water every time I saw pus coming out Kairos eyes. I read on the internet that black tea was good for an infected eye so I made black tea and cleaned his eyes with black tea.
After three days it was decreasing but his other eye got infected to. But the other eye was fine. The fourth day I made Beetroot soup, because I believe Beetroot can pump up your blood cells to fight the bacteria, I love beetroot such a awesome powerfood. After 5 days of having eye infection Kairos was better no more pus or anything any more it was all gone.
Now you might not agree with how I handle it, but when Kairos had an eye infection he was fine. He played like he wasn't infected at all and acted normal. I love the doctor but I love Dr google to, it's just living in Indonesia it's hard to believe doctors. Because there are so many commercial doctors here that they would tell you to buy a lot of medicines and antibiotics to make you better. Can't really trust a lot of doctors here, where in Holland my doctor would tell me that everything will be fine just take a lot of rest, eat a good diet etc.
I am really happy and proud of how I handled it, by following my mother instict, morning prayers and Dr google and all the moms who shared their story about Pinky eye.
Thank you moms.
A lot of moms asked me how I potty trained my 2 year old, When I told them how I did it they looked at my like I was some crazy mom. But HEY it worked.
My son goes to this international kindergarten in Jakarta, where all the kids in his class are already potty trained by 1 and half year old. Kairos was the only boy in his class who wasn't potty trained and he was just two. Every day I would hear from moms of the kindergarten " Ow he isn't potty trained yet???!!!" I am like "No duhh you could see from the form of his ass that he is wearing diapers ." But I didnt say that to the moms.
I am like, I am not going to rush things and force my son to potty train, I'll just notice when he shows interest.
Then I met my friend who is an Australian living in the mids of the jungle of Kalimantan, she told me how she potty trained her son. She just let him but naked and walked around the house with no diapers on, and within a month he was potty trained. So I was like really hmmmmm junglee lifeeeeee! let me give it a try but not but naked.
I started with when Kairos got back home from kindergarten I would leave him but naked playing around the house with shirt on. Because we tried with pants on only he would still think his pants are like diapers that he can just pee in it. So we left him but naked.
When we just started to do this he would let us know that he wants to pee, we would rush him to the toilet but he eventualy pee otw to the toilet. With doing a number two was more easier because he could hold in a lil so we always could get him to the toilet on time. Other signs knowing that he wants to do a number two he would touch his tummy and looked in our eyes focussed and we would know he was about to do a number two.
When we started to do potty training, we trained Kairos to not wear diapers when sleeping and we wouldn't give him something to drink right before bed. We left him but naked again while sleeping. One month of training he only peed in his bed two/three times.
In 3 weeks he was fully potty trained and he didn't had to wear diapers anymore THANK GOD. No more buying diapers and Helloo underwear and boxers.
My tip for parents who want to potty train their toddler, please be consistent and its just that extra effort, extra attention for 3/4 weeks. But you will end up feeling such a winner, its one of the millestones that you are going to be so proud of as a parrent. And find methods of potty training that suits you, because there are so many. This method works for me maybe not for all parents, especially when your living in a cold country. We live in a tropical country so it's oke to run at home but naked, not that I do it to. It was just our son who was but naked for the potty training.
But now we kind of miss the diapors sometimes, because when we are down town and he wants to pee we need to find a toilet right away. Or when we are in the car and theres no toilet near us we would give us our Ipad or Phone so he can watch or play for a litle while. While we are searching for a toilet.
Have fun potty training mom and dad. Let me know how it went.